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To be honest I\u2019m feeling really low. Set a goal and missed it. Now I\u2019m trying to keep my head above water doing something super humbling for pitence<\/em>
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A friend sent me this text. We were supposed to be catching up but things hadn\u2019t being going to plan for him with his latest business project. He was off to do a job he didn\u2019t want to do, to earn some extra cash, to keep his business dreams alive. I have been there many times before with my work and business ventures.
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This guy has been a massive encouragement and support to me so I decided to write this for him \ud83d\ude42
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When the Excitement Wears off
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Setting off on a new adventure is super exciting, full of enthusiasm and optimism. At some point though, you will reach a moment you haven\u2019t planned for or thought about.  
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You will feel like your failing, you’re not measuring up and you’re not good enough. You will look out and see everyone else being \u201csuccessful\u201d, it will seem like the only person in the world that can\u2019t do it is you!
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For a while, I felt like this at least 1 in 4 weeks. I would call it the rollercoaster of business and life. How do you keep going when you feel like this?
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While there\u2019s nothing I can say that will change how you feel right now it helps to know that it\u2019s normal.
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It\u2019s a Normal Part of the Journey
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One of the first blog posts I wrote was about failure<\/a>. I wanted to share the other side of the coin. We hear and see so many success stories. It\u2019s easy to think that if your struggling you\u2019re not doing it right and that successful people don\u2019t have these struggles.
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Here is an excerpt from that post\u2026
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\u201c… Over the years, I have tried numerous business projects that haven\u2019t succeeded at all or to the degree I would have originally hoped for. Ideas that I have put huge amounts of time and energy into only end up fizzling out. Again, at the time, it makes you feel like you\u2019re no good at anything. Each time, though, I tell myself that going through this process is an achievement in itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have struggled with motivation and drive; they come and go like a rollercoaster. I can be very lazy. I love to come up with a great idea and get it started, but then I procrastinate doing anything that takes more than 10 minutes of my time. So, I don\u2019t get things finished. If I spent as much time finishing the ideas I started as I did thinking about new ones, I would be about 50 times more productive.
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I find it hard to make decisions; I am naturally quite shy and lack the confidence to back myself. Outwardly, I appear to take the bull by the horns and charge ahead, but inwardly, I secretly question every decision I make. I am constantly weighing what I \u201cshould have done.\u201d
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Basically\u2019 I feel like I have stuffed up a thousand times before, and I know I will probably stuff up another thousand.
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So, what do I do about all this failure? \u2026\u201d Read more here<\/a>
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Everyone Has Days\/Weeks\/Months like This
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Your not some weirdo, your not useless, your not a failure. Again from Failure: The Ups and Downs of Business and Their Challenges<\/a>
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\u201c…Often it feels like I\u2019m taking two steps forward and one step back. The two steps forward make me feel like I am on top of the world and nothing could go wrong. Then there is an unforeseen setback which brings me crashing back down to reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This cycle has happened over and over again, and it takes its toll on me. More recently, I have begun to expect the cycle, recognizing when I am on top, and also when I am low.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This actually fits quite well with the entrepreneur cycles discussed in an old guest post from 2008 on Tim Ferris\u2019s Blog<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I am on \u201ctop of the world,\u201d I remind myself to not get too comfortable, yet still, enjoy and appreciate it. I know that this will pass, and when I am in a low, I remind myself of the other times I have felt like this and how the feeling eventually passed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s Not the First or the Last Time You Will Feel like This<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Pause for a moment and think about the last time you felt this way. How long did it last and how did you get through? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Knowing that you have been here before helps you get through today’s dull weather. Just like a rain cloud rolling through, you know there will be sunny days on the other side, even if that seems like a distant reality. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s a cool little video for you, the sun is just above the clouds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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2 Things That Help Me Move Forward<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A friend Jesse wrote Going back to your Wh<\/a>y \u201c…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Going back to your \u2018WHY\u2019, going back to the purpose will ALWAYS uncover that obstacle, that problem, that roadblock with a solution. In fact, you may often find that you have been attempting to solve the complete wrong problem in the first place, and you will then be able to turn your attention to the correct problem to solve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Clarity of purpose, honesty, humility and the ability to CHANGE back to the true north of that purpose is essential in getting unstuck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The best thing about refocusing on your \u2018WHY\u2019, is that it is never too late. Today, simply and honestly go back to your \u2018WHY\u2019 so you can move out of that rut. \u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Write a List of All the Things you Have Achieved
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In Lessons from 2018 I wrote:  <\/em><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

“…Looking back, there were numerous times throughout the year that I felt I was going around in circles. I felt flat, and it was like mentally a thick fog had rolled in. I couldn\u2019t even see the next step to take. It\u2019s interesting because when I sit and write a list of what I have done, there is still a lot to be proud of, but I didn\u2019t have the sense of satisfaction I have had other years. This has shaped my theme for the year going forward<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What are the things that worked well this year?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n